Reactions to 3 year old suspended for too many potty accidents

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A few months ago, I wrote about the pressures that I felt to potty train my almost 3 year old because his daycare didn't want to move him to the 3 year old class until he was fully potty trained. I decided to just let him stay a few more weeks with the 2 1/2 year old kids because I didn't want to pressure him before he was ready. I know that when kids are pushed prematurely, they end up acting out. Have you ever found your child hiding behind the sofa or in a corner because he wants to find a quiet place to poop in peace? I know that some babies are potty trained at 18 months but not my boys. I give them instruction and encouragement and then let them go at their own pace. Even with that laid back attitude, the pressure from outside sources can intrude and make the process very stressful.  Below is one mother's experience, recently published in the Washington Post.
 I have also posted a link to the comments. You may be surprised by the position taken by the majority of those who commented on the article.

"Zoe Rosso, who is 3 years old, likes to bake brownies with her mom, go to tumbling class and make up elaborate worlds with tiny plastic animals and dolls. Like many children her age, she sometimes has difficulty making it to the toilet on time.  That's why she was suspended from her preschool. For a month.
Arlington Public Schools' Montessori preschool at Claremont Elementary "removed" Zoe in December, asking her parents not to bring her back to school for a month, or until the child learned not to have any more "accidents.""

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/29/AR2011012903854.html?nav=hcmodule

http://blog.washingtonpost.com/story-lab/2011/01/blowback_story_about_potty_tra.html

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